Mostly we visit her abroad. FIL died five years ago and since then she goes on regular holidays to Kenya with similarly aged ladies 70s - the other women go there explicitly for sex tourism. We think probably naively MIL just enjoys the attention, she pays various 'English teachers' to sit with her all day, tell her how good her English is and she sends them regular gifts when she goes home she is wealthy and enjoys showing her friends many emails from them telling her how much they love her and miss her etc.
To me this is akin to Western men going to Thailand or similar for sex, I find it deeply exploitative and wrong. She will periodically say, in a very loud voice I had totally forgotten this before yesterday "I love black men!!
She didn't really understand so I think she will say it again. If we told her it sounded racist in English she would be horrified and not say it, she doesn't know enough English to know whether or not that is true. Honestly, if you heard someone shout this in the street, does it sound racist in any way or is it just because we know about the sex tourism that it sits uncomfortably with us?
I think it comes across as pervy at the very least. She is here for two weeks so before all our neighbours start hating us I wanted to check. Last time we stayed with her for three days and she said it about four times.
She loves talking about her holidays and the people she meets so it comes up a lot. And I am not a troll at all. Should have said that. It's the sort of thing you cannot believe unless you're in the room. Ooooh, it does sound a bit racist to be honest. It's like a group of men shouting, "Cor! I LOVE blondes! I should try to get across to her that it isn't on, especially here in UK where you have to be careful.
