Welcome to Ask a Fat Girl , a column in which Charlotte Zoller addresses your questions about living life in a bigger body. Have a question for Charlotte? Send it to submit askafatgirl. All submissions will remain anonymous unless given explicit consent to share first name, age, location, or body size. What your date did was inexcusable. You absolutely do not need to disclose your size in writing, and his suggesting what you should is dehumanizing.
Your date is clearly dealing with his own insecurities, which explainsβbut does not excuseβhis hideous behavior. That being said, the pain of receiving a text like this is real and cutting, no matter your level of comfort with your body. You deserve a partner who will stand by your side and love you exactly as you are. Whoever says something like this right out of the gate is not prepared to challenge systemic fatphobia as they navigate life with you.
Your online presence likely already takes many forms. The same is true for dating, a much more personal endeavor than letting people know what your current job is. We rightfully enter the dating world with skepticism. This stems from copious unpleasant online dating experiences in my early-mid 20s. Making her size clear in her profile is both for her safety and her peace of mind. Not liking fat girls is part of the masculine identity, and because masculinity is fragile, sometimes men do messed up things to show that.
The amount of information you offer should correlate with what your comfort level, not what another person thinks you should discloseβand the fact that we need to disclose anything about our bodies to feel safe says much more about the world we live in than it does us. You may not be ready to stand on the front lines of fat activism in your personal dating life. Living a full beautiful life as a person of size is a radical act. The power is in your hands.
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