I had a friend who after 2 yr at our university, decided to transfer out of state to the same college where her boyfriend was attending. We all wished her well and missed her a lot and kept in touch after she moved. At the time, I and all of our mutual friends thought that her parents were mean and horrible people because: a.
Many many years after that, his life took a downward turn. He fell into heavy drug use, lost his primo job at a good company, and for awhile was renting a room in a hotel by the week…the sort of place that is frequented by all sorts of nefarious characters. She pretty much wanted to get away from her parents, away from the school that they had picked for her, and wanted to make her own way in the world. While me and my high school-to-college boyfriend stayed together and eventually got married and still are married , one of the things I have frequently commented on here is that I wish I had spent less time in college nurturing our fledgling relationship and more time being a young adult and enjoying college.
I was absolutely certain I would marry my high school boyfriend. He was a year ahead of me. He went off to Stanford, and the following year, I went to Mount Holyoke. We decided that I would transfer either to Stanford or Santa Clara after my sophomore year and then get married. My son and his high school girlfriend dated for 3 years. They talked about marriage, kids etc. Finally about 3 months before graduation my son realized they would be 12 hours apart and he wanted to have the college experience and see what else was out there.
He wanted her to have the opportunity to do that to. He also realized if he wanted to be a vet he has 8 years of school. They broke up. Ok I do miss her. I did. They did stay together through undergraduate. She stayed for grad school and they broke up. Which was the actual larger issue, the boyfriend, or her not liking being under heavy parental control? Looking back, I think that the bigger issue was her not liking being under heavy parental control.
All of her credits did not transfer over and it took her an extra semester to graduate, but she did graduate and everything worked out fine.
