I cohost a podcast about dating, and that podcast has a secret Facebook group for listeners. It's a place they can share dating qualms, ask for advice, and generally boost my ego jokes! It's also one of the few comment sections on the internet that I can tolerate, and that's entirely due to our sweet listeners.
Recently, the topic of whether dating app bios for open relationships should be honest about their relationship status or not. I quickly realized that I did not know all that much about open relationships, and I decided to listen with my eyeballs and not type with my fingers. Essentially, a listener shared that after Googling after a recent first date because , she found out that he seemingly had a girlfriend on his social media.
We're talking profile pictures here. She liked him, planned out to hang out with him again, and wondered if she should say something about him potentially cheating on his girlfriend. While most of us chimed in with a "YES, find out now! I understand that the world is changing and that open-mindedness is queen, but there if I'm going to spend my night with you, I'd like to know if you're single or not.
I spoke to relationship coach specializing in open relationships Effy Blue , and licensed psychotherapist and dating coach, Shaina Singh , LCSW about the right way to introduce an open relationship when using dating apps actively with people who may or may not be in open relationships as well.
While it might feel limiting, or you might worry that people will wonder if you're just looking for sex if you include your open relationship in your bio, being honest is the best policy. Wouldn't you appreciate if someone was transparent with you? It should never be hidden, unclear or vague.
