Skip navigation! Story from Relationships. Shani Silver. Last Updated January 15, , PM. One year ago this month, I deleted all of my dating apps. No fanfare, no champagne, just me in Target sweatpants propped up on four pillows before bedtime. After a decade of online dating , removing them from my life completely is one of my greatest accomplishments. Because their spell is very hard to break. Of course it is. And what could be an easier fix than a dating app?
High level, dating apps are ideal. Minimal effort, maximum reward. The same three questions tend to come up around this fairly significant change: 1 Why did I do it? Why did I do it? Simply stated, I deleted the dating apps because they were not serving me.
They were giving me nothing. Which, to be fair, is also my fault. All of my relationships have begun through real-life encounters that allowed connection to build over time, why did I ever think apps would work for me? I was getting nothing from dating apps, so I decided to give them nothing in return.
I deleted my accounts, my apps, everything. How did I do it? More specifically, how do I keep them gone? We have all re-downloaded. I got out. The apps are genius. They make you feel lazy for not using them. So you re-download. And then you pour hours and hours of your time into them, and the apps never have to give you anything positive back in return. They know they can offer as little real value as possible, because single women will always come back.
The real reason I never re-downloaded the apps was that I saw how much I loved my life without them. I noticed how free and light I felt, how much more positively I viewed my own life , and I actually got hours of my week back to say nothing of phone memory to do with whatever I pleased.
