Men would grab my butt and say, 'You have a great ass for an Asian girl,' as if they were giving me a compliment. As a domme, I gained independence and a sense of value, albeit superficial, in a society that has tried to force me into a docile, hyper-sexualized box. Skip navigation! Story from Sex. June 2, , PM. Oh, the smallest vaginas in the game. Growing up, I was constantly reduced to my ethnicity. People always assumed, among other things, that I was great at math, and that I was shy and submissive.
My individuality was completely dismissed. When that quality is displayed in a vocal American culture, however, it can hold us back immensely.
While Asian women are objectified, Asian men are stripped of their sexuality and masculinity. For me, becoming a dominatrix had nothing to do my with my race. What I ended up learning, however, was that the sex industry was much like the vanilla world when it came to assumptions about Asian women β except the stereotypes were flipped upside-down.
I wound up at an all-Asian dungeon, and I found that there was something comforting about working alongside women who not only shared my experiences in the vanilla world, but in the BDSM one, too. They were the only ones who could relate to the troublesome reasoning behind the higher price tag for our work: People tend to think that Asians come from households that raise them to succeed, or at least put them on track for careers in medicine, law, or business.
If you can tolerate the risk, the marginalization pays off majorly. After a few months of domming, I began to realize that there were two sides to the fetishization of our race. There was our exoticized appearance β recent studies have suggested that Asian women are often considered more attractive on average , and we get more responses than women of any other race on dating websites.
