One of the most debated but rarely explained topics in the BDSM community is consensual non-consent. Before we begin discussing everything you need to know about the CNC fetish, we need to first understand how it differs from rape play. The CNC meaning refers to a mutual agreement where the Dom is able to act as if the sub has waived all consent.
Complete consent is given beforehand, with the understanding of it being a permanent arrangement under most circumstances. The bottom line is that this is something the sub has willingly said they wanted. They have feelings, needs, wants, and imperfections too. They may disagree with the Dom, and voice it , but they still ultimately want to serve and be used. Since trust is so important in consensual non-consent I would say that safewords are preferred. Safewords make everything clear.
We usually think trust has to do with the sub trusting the Dom, but the Dom has to equally be able to trust their sub. After a play session, a sub might act completely different if consensual non-consent was involved. This is because the mind and body are so connected.
During subdrop they will slowly start to feel safe and in control again. Many BDSM players may use the terms rape play and consensual non-consent interchangeably, but as we discussed at the beginning, they are not the same thing.
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Rape play is just one small aspect of a CNC kink. Even those in a vanilla relationship may have that fantasy. For some victims of past abuse though, acting it out can be very therapeutic. It can be a way to relive the experience, knowing that they now have the power to make it stop. For example, vaginal rape may be acceptable, but anal may not be. There are many ways to engage in consensual non-consent, both sexual and non-sexual. If you are in a BDSM relationship, or even if you just play part-time, here are some ideas and examples:.
