Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. I found a video of him wanking over a pic of a girl he was seeing 10 years ago. Anyway we worked things out and things have been up and down.
Last time we met was in April. We used to talk a lot on the phone and text. Then you can decide whether to pursue things with the other guy. Maybe he doesnt want an affair, but wants more? Or maybe it is over, but how can you know? You need to decide if what you have with the other guy is just fantasy- is it the thrill of it being secret? It seems a very complicated situation. Good luck. Sounds like AP is playing a blinder here - using you for sex, getting up to all sorts on holiday as he owes you nothing yet still stringing you along.
Come on love have some self respect. Either put it behind you and work on your relationship or tell DH and leave him if too don't love him at all. Block and delete the other man. Let him know if you must.
Then think about your partner. The future of your relationship cannot be predicated upon whether or not your affair partner wants to see you anymore. You need to be honourable and make that decision yourself. It sounds as though you rugswept his behaviour and now the rot has set in. This is such an unhealthy situation for your little one. Block this guy and then get yourself into counselling and work out your next step forwards.
They may involve getting away from any unhealthy relationships with any man for a bit! Your DP doesn't stand a chance while you're daydreaming about animalistic romps with another man. Show your DP some respect, he deserves better than being used a a rent a spouse to keep up appearances and take to BBQs and do the odd parent's evening.
